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Family favorite? Parents, Siblings See Imbalances in Parents' Attention Differently |
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From EurekAlert! - Breaking News: When parents treat their children differently, siblings and parents often have very different ideas about what's happening and why, says a University of Illinois study. "You'd think it would be clear when a child is receiving more positive or negative attention, and why that might be happening, but families don't seem to talk much about these differences unless someone complains," said Laurie Kramer, a U of I professor of applied family studies. Even when children reported that they and their siblings were treated differently, they often didn't agree about exactly how or why they were being treated differently, Kramer said. One thing, however, was clear: siblings got along better if they had a shared understanding of why parents treated them differently and believed the treatment was fair. "That means it's important for families to talk about these issues, and for mothers and fathers to really listen to what their kids are telling them about how their actions are affecting them," said Kramer. An earlier study by the researchers showed that siblings understand when differences in treatment occur if there's a good reason for it. "For example, if a child is having trouble in school, parents may spend extra time with that child helping with homework and encouraging him. "Say, for example, 'I bought Joe a car when he was 17 because he was working after school and needed transportation. Kramer said that differential treatment performed by mothers may have a greater impact on teens' sibling relationships than fathers' differential treatment.
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